6 Marital conflict Resolutions you should know and practise

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There is nothing God cannot fix. There’s nothing that’s above God’s power. God can and exceedingly able to repair the wounded marriage. God is always ready to help you fix the broken marriage. However God always work together with human efforts. He let us do something on our part while He take care of his part too. Here are 6 Ways you can resolve conflicts in your marriage for good.

1). Forgiveness: There’s happiness when love is at home and there’s no happiness without peace. Peace and happiness is the product of forgiveness. When there’s forgiving spirit in the home Satan’s weapons become powerless. Forgiveness only come by God’s grace. When you submit yourselves to God you gain strength and Satan cannot overcome one who make God his anchor. Be pitiful and compassionate enough to forgive your spouse when he/she wrong you even when there’s no “I’m sorry” spoken. Love is powerful enough to break all yoke and bitterness. A single act of forgiveness and tenderness can fix all the marital problems and bring peace and harmony. ask God to give you the strength to love your spouse and forgive her when she wrong you. Try this and you’ll see the power of God in your marriage.
“1 Peter  3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:  3:9 Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.  3:10 For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:  3:11 Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.  3:12 For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.”

2). The little things count: Sometimes couples think marriage is about doing big things and ignoring the little things. Just saying “Thank you my wife/husband” can soften the heart of your partner and plant the seed of love in the heart again.
Don’t ignore giving compliments always. Say thank you always when your partner do something for you. Make it your special object of study to always find opportunity to tell her you love her so much. The enemy will still seek to resist you but pray to God for strength to be more tender, caring, loving… God is pleased when there’s peace and harmony in the home.

“There is beauty all around, When there’s love at home; There is joy in every sound, When there’s love at home. Peace and plenty here abide, Smiling fair on every side; Time doth softly, sweetly glide, When there’s love at home.”

3). Stop the “I know what you’re thinking” attitude: Most of marital conflicts spring from misconception. Thinking for your spouse is very dangerous and it gives room for unnecessary speculations. Satan will surely give you what you want. You may think you’re having a hint of your wife thoughts but you’re rather listening to the devil’s suggestions which gives wrong perception about your beloved spouses. Instead of wasting time on speculations why don’t you use it to love your wife/husband greatly and shun the devil. Know that Satan is a liar from the beginning and is the father of lies because he hath no truth in him. He can’t also read anyone’s mind it’s only God who knows all what’s in one’s mind. Why would you listen to his lies and create unnecessary quarrels by falsifying your spouse thoughts. God desires extreme love for your marriage. Resist the devil and lean on God to avoid the wrong ideas you speculate about your wife/husband. “James  4:7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.  4:8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.  4:9 Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.  4:10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.  4:11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.  4:12 There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?” “1 Peter  5:8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour:  5:9 Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.”

4). Prayers: Prayer can move mountains(many problems). Why don’t you take all the problems to God in prayer instead of telling your fellow man? Jesus is a Friend you can always trust because he’ll never fail you. He wants you to be happy in your marriage as He intended in the garden of Eden from the beginning. “Kindly heaven smiles above, When there’s love at home; All the earth is filled with love, When there’s love at home. Sweeter sings the brooklet by, Brighter beams the azure sky; O, there’s One who smiles on high When there’s love at home.”

Do not allow the vexations of your business to bring darkness into your home life.If, when little things occur that are not exactly as you think they should be, you fail to reveal patience, long forbearance, kindness, and love, you show that you have not chosen as a companion Him who so loved you that He gave His life for you, that you might be one with Him.

In the daily life you will meet with sudden surprises, disappointments, and temptations. What saith the word? “Resist the devil,” by firm reliance upon God, “and he will flee from you. Draw nigh to God, and He will draw nigh to you.” “Let him take hold of My strength, that he may make peace with Me; and he shall make peace with Me.” Look unto Jesus at all times and in all places, offering a silent prayer from a sincere heart that you may know how to do His will. Then when the enemy comes in like a flood, the Spirit of the Lord will lift up a standard for you against the enemy.When you are almost ready to yield, to lose patience and self-control, to be hard and denunciatory, to find fault and accuse—this is the time for you to send to heaven the prayer, “Help me, O God, to resist temptation, to put all bitterness and wrath and evilspeaking out of my heart. Give me Thy meekness, Thy lowliness, Thy long-suffering, and Thy love. Leave me not to dishonor my Redeemer, to misinterpret the words and motives of my wife, my children, and my brethren and sisters in the faith. Help me that I may be kind, pitiful, tenderhearted, forgiving. Help me to be a real house-band in my home and to represent the character of Christ to others.”12

Daily prayer is as essential to growth in grace, and even to spiritual life itself, as is temporal food to physical well-being. We should accustom ourselves to often lift the thoughts to God in prayer. If the mind wanders, we must bring it back; by persevering effort, habit will finally make it easy.We cannot for one moment separate ourselves from Christ with safety. We may have His presence to attend us at every step, but only by observing the conditions which He has Himself laid down.

5). Let love overcome all evil: Do not render evil for evil but overcome it with good. Love has power to fix all wrong things done and make things beautiful again. Have a compassionate heart and be patient in your dealings with your spouse. By doing this and praying, God Will help you in the battle against the enemy of souls.

Under a storm of stinging faultfinding words, keep the mind stayed upon the word of God. Let mind and heart be stored with God’s promises. If you are ill-treated or wrongfully accused, instead of returning an angry answer, repeat to yourself the precious promises. “Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.”[Romans 12:21.]

“Commit thy way unto the Lord: trust also in Him; and He shall bring it to pass. And He shall bring forth thy righteousness as the light, and thy judgment as the noon-day.”[Psalm 37:5, 6.]

6). Let Jesus be your rock always: Let Jesus, the Rock of ages be your strength. Always tell Him all your trials and trust in His saving grace. “Jesus, make me wholly Thine, Then there’s love at home; May Thy sacrifice be mine, Then there’s love at home. Safely from all harm I’ll rest, With no sinful care distressed, Thro’ thy tender mercy blessed. When there’s love at home.” “2 Corinthians  12:9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” King Jesus would never let you down. Trust and obey Him. Jesus loves you and wants to give you His peace that surpasses everything you’ve ever known if you’ll give Him your burdens and care. “Matthew  11:28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.  11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.  11:30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”

1 Peter  3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:  3:9 Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.  3:10 For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:  3:11 Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.  3:12 For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.  3:13 And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good?  3:14 But and if ye suffer for righteousness’ sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled;  3:15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:  3:16 Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.  3:17 For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing.  3:18 For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit:  3:19 By which also he went and preached unto the spirits in prison;  3:20 Which sometime were disobedient, when once the longsuffering of God waited in the days of Noah, while the ark was a preparing, wherein few, that is, eight souls were saved by water.  3:21 The like figure whereunto even baptism doth also now save us (not the putting away of the filth of the flesh, but the answer of a good conscience toward God,) by the resurrection of Jesus Christ:  3:22 Who is gone into heaven, and is on the right hand of God; angels and authorities and powers being made subject unto him.

Ephesians  5:20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;  5:21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.  5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.  5:24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.  5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;  5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,  5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.  5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:  5:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.  5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.  5:32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

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