Marriage Is A Blessing From God And A Great Gift Too.
Marriage Provides Companionship, And Is The Basics Of The Society.
However Everything God Provided For Our Happiness, The Devil Makes It His Special Object To Make It A Misery And Abhorring.
With The Help Of God, You Can Love Your Wife, Husband Unconditionally As God Planned.
Love Is Practical And It Needs Constant Effort On The Part Of Both Parties. Here Are Some Ways That’ll Help You In Your Marriage Relationship.
1) Have A Forgiving Heart, Spirit
To Love Your Spouse Unconditionally, You Would Have To Always Forgive And Forget. When You Have A Forgiving Heart There’s Nothing That Can Mar The Happiness In Your Marriage. Even If Something Went Wrong And It Wasn’t Your Fault, Show A Lot Of Pity And Care. Always Forgive Your Spouse When She Wrong You. Let Her Know You Respect And Cherish Her. A Forgiving Spirit Is A Gift From God, Ask Him For This Gift And Cherish Your Wife.
2) Be Forbearing
Without Forbearance, You Can’t Love. The Bible Says Love “Is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;”
1 Corinthians 13:5
You Have To Be Forbearing And Always Loving. When Your Spouse Speak Some Words That Make You Uncomfortable, Be Forbearing. When She Says Something Provoking, Be Forbearing. Make It Your Aim To Never Exercise Any Harshness On Your Spouse.
When Your Temped To Be Harsh On Your Wife Instead Of Being Tender, Pause And Pray.
God Will Help You To Have A Forbearing Spirit.
3) Be Kind And Compassionate
The Bible Says It Again That Love ” Suffereth long, and is kind;” 1 Corinthians 13:4
Always Put A Smiling Spirit In Your Heart And Let It Rest On Your Brow. Be Tender And Caring. Let Your Spouse Always See How Special She Is To You.
Ask God To Always Give You A Kind Heart.
4) After God, Let Your Spouse Be First Always In Your Life
God Said “And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.”
Your Spouse Is Your Half And You Have To Take Good Care Of Your Other Half. Give Your Spouse The Attention She Need. Cherish Her Always.
“1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”
“1 Peter 3:5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands: 3:6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”
Pray Always And Keep The Love Of God In Your Heart. Loving God Supremely Is The Only Way You Can Love Your Spouse Unconditionally.
Christ Will Place His Spirit In Your Heart And Will Give You The Grace To Love And Cherish Your Spouse.
“Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 5:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”
6)Exercise Great Self-Control
To gain a proper understanding of the marriage relation is the work of a lifetime. Those who marry enter a school from which they are never in this life to be graduated.1 AH 105.1
However carefully and wisely marriage may have been entered into, few couples are completely united when the marriage ceremony is performed. The real union of the two in wedlock is the work of the afteryears.2 AH 105.2
As life with its burden of perplexity and care meets the newly wedded pair, the romance with which imagination so often invests marriage disappears. Husband and wife learn each other’s character as it was impossible to learn it in their previous association. This is a most critical period in their experience.The happiness and usefulness of their whole future life depend upon their taking a right course now. Often they discern in each other unsuspected weaknesses and defects; but the hearts that love has united will discern excellencies also heretofore unknown. Let all seek to discover the excellencies rather than the defects. Often it is our own attitude, the atmosphere that surrounds ourselves, which determines what will be revealed to us in another.3 AH 105.3
Love Must Be Tested and Tried—Affection may be as clear as crystal and beauteous in its purity, yet it may be shallow because it has not been tested and tried. Make Christ first and last and best in everything.Constantly behold Him, and your love for Him will daily become deeper and stronger as it is submitted to the test of trial. And as your love for Him increases, your love for each other will grow deeper and stronger.4 AH 105.4
7)Always Make It Your Objective To Love And Cherish Your Spouse
Though difficulties, perplexities, and discouragements may arise, let neither husband nor wife harbor the thought that their union is a mistake or a disappointment. Determine to be all that it is possible to be to each other. Continue the early attentions.In every way encourage each other in fighting the battles of life. Study to advance the happiness of each other.Let there be mutual love, mutual forbearance. Then marriage, instead of being the end of love, will be as it were the very beginning of love. The warmth of true friendship, the love that binds heart to heart, is a foretaste of the joys of heaven.5 AH 106.1
All should cultivate patience by practicing patience. By being kind and forbearing, true love may be kept warm in the heart, and qualities will be developed that Heaven will approve.6 AH 106.2
The Enemy Will Seek to Alienate—Satan is ever ready to take advantage when any matter of variance arises, and by moving upon the objectionable, hereditary traits of character in husband or wife, he will try to cause the alienation of those who have united their interests in a solemn covenant before God. In the marriage vows they have promised to be as one, the wife covenanting to love and obey her husband, the husband promising to love and cherish his wife. If the law of God is obeyed, the demon of strife will be kept out of the family, and no separation of interests will take place, no alienation of affection will be permitted.7 AH 106.3
The wife is to respect her husband.The husband is to love and cherish his wife; and as their marriage vow unites them as one, so their belief in Christ should make them one in Him.What can be more pleasing to God than to see those who enter into the marriage relation seek together to learn of Jesus and to become more and more imbued with His Spirit?2 AH 114.2
You now have duties to perform that before your marriage you did not have. “Put on therefore, …kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering.” “Walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us.”Give careful study to the following instruction: “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church…. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it.”3 AH 114.3
“1 Peter 3:8 Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:”
AH: Adventist Home By Ellen G White