1. Extreme possessiveness
Jealousy and envy may be required in a relationship to feel emotionally secure and wanted, but only in measured amounts. If they go beyond limits, obsession can creep into the bliss of a relationship. If you and your boyfriend are extremely possessive of each other, you may need to keep it in check from the very start. Looking out for each other is one thing and micro managing each other is something completely different.
2. Lies and dishonesty
If you are constantly lying to your boyfriend or if you have caught him lying to you on several occasions, you both could be digging your relationship’s grave. By doing this you may lose trust and also find it difficult to respect each other again. Whether it is a white lie or a little manipulation, dishonesty in any form can kill a relationship in the long term.
3. Lack of understanding and communication
One of the biggest killers of a relationship can be lack of communication and understanding between partners. If your boyfriend switches off when you are talking about your passion or if you don’t support him in his times of need, your relationship may not take much time to go downhill.
4. Flirting habits
Does your boyfriend flirt with his female friends? Do you indulge in healthy flirting to get things done? If either of you take liberties in flirting with the opposite sex, it may come back to you later and cause insecurity to enter your relationship. When insecurity grows, it may damage a relationship.
5. Addiction to technology
Since technology has penetrated into almost all areas of life, it may not be surprising to find your boyfriend glued to his iPhone while you are saying something important to him or vice versa. If either of the partners have a habit of overusing technology to the extent of hurting each other’s feelings, it may destroy a relationship.
6. Competition about work and earnings
When couples start comparing their salaries, promotions and progress at work, mayhem is bound to ensue. A healthy amount of competitive spirit between partners can be productive, but when it crosses the line, power struggles and ego hassles can potentially damage relationships.
Are you or your boyfriend a chronic alcoholic, a drug addict or a chain smoker? Do you become irritated and frustrated when you can’t satisfy your craving for a vice? Addictions like these are known to be the cause of trauma or abuse in relationships. If you are in a similar situation, chances are that your relationships may be falling apart.
8. Bad hygiene
You may think that relationships hinging on insignificant matters like hygiene are shallow, but that may not always be the case. Petty arguments between couples on such issues are known to spiral out of control and permanently damage relationships. It can take something as seemingly small as a partner who has a bad body odor to irk the other partner off.