Marriage And Courtship: Doing It God’s Way

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1). View Marriage From The Standpoint Of God’s Will.

“Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.”

Marriage Should Be Viewed From The Standard God Has Set For It.

Marriage Is Honourable In All.
Marriage Is Very Sacred.
God Appointed Marriage To Be A “Small Heaven On Earth”. Also It’s A Representation Of Christ Love For His Purchased Possession. To Reveal God’s Love And Tender Compassion In The Marriage Relation Is The Will Of God.

Let This Be Your Mindset That Marriage Is All About Glorifying God. Therefore Through Your Courtship And Married Life, Always Do Everything To The Glory Of God.
Don’t Act Or Behave In A Way That You Will Not Wish The Recording Angel To Write It Down In Your Records. Every Vile And Unholy Purpose Should Be Shunned. Then Will Marriage Be A HOLY And Happy Union.

2). Never Think Of Marrying An Unbeliever:
Don’t Even Think About It, Take God’s Word And Don’t Even Move In That Line Of Being Unequally Yoked With Unbeliever. It Will SURELY Cripple You For Life, Physical, Emotional, Spiritual.
“2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”

God Loves You And He Only Wishes You The Best In This Life And For You To Have Eternal Life. If You Obey Him, You Will Have Happiness, Peace, Joy And Health.

The Fact That The Person Does Not Believe God’s Truth Is A Full Stop. Stop Right There And Obey God’s Word.
Take Heed And Avoid Union With An Unbeliever.

The Devil Will Tempt You To DISOBEY GOD And Lose His Approbation But We Ought To Obey God And Have Life.

Jesus Says;

“Proverbs 1:33 But whoso hearkeneth unto me shall dwell safely, and shall be quiet from fear of evil.”

3). Pray Without Ceasing.
It Was Said In Inspiration That When One Start To Contemplate, Decision About Marriage, When He Used To Pray Twice, He Should Double It, And Even Pray More. Because Any Unwise Decision Here Will Bring Misery And Unhappiness.

It Will Also Affect Your Life Here And Your Eternal Destiny.

You Should Submit All Your Ideas And Plans To God And He Will Direct Your Steps.

“Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

3:7 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.”

“Psalms 119:9 Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word.”

“Proverbs 16:3 Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established.”

Let This Mind Be In You; Always Have The Mindset Of Glorifying God And Shun All Unholy Practices.

The Lord Will Then Help You In His Providence To Have A Good Partner When You Obey His Word.
The LORD Will Not Cast Away Anyone Who Seek To Earnestly Do His Will.

4). Marriage Is A Lifelong Journey.
Have Patience And Decide Well. Ask Yourself And Ponder.
Do You Have The Capability To Take Care Of The Home, Do You Have A Knowledge About Practical Life Duties? Think About These And Pray More To God To Help You And Prepare You For The Marriage Life Duties. Plan To Be A Responsible Partner By The Grace Of God.

5). Be Spiritually Minded.
When Christ Truly Live In You, Then All Things Will Be In Order By His Grace. Seek Someone Who Will ALWAYS Help Your Spiritual Growth. Think About This Before Other Qualities Because Such A Person Will Not Lead You Downward But Heavenward.
And A Home Composed Of Two Lovers Who Truly Love Jesus And Obey Him Is The Whole Center Of True Happiness And Peace With God.

This, Many Do To Women. After Showing Interest In A Woman, They Go And Say Same Things To Another New Face Which Has Attracted Them. Such Is A Great SIN IN THE SIGHT OF GOD.

Never Trifle With Hearts. The PURPOSE Of Courtship Is NOT To Joke, Trifle But To Be Serious, Humble Yourself Before God And Move Forward To The Product Of Your Courtship In The Fear Of God With The Earnest Purpose Of Glorifying His Holy Name.

If You Are Not Serious, Don’t Even Think About Courtship If Your Purpose Is Not Marriage. DON’T TRIFLE WITH ANYONE HEART!!!

7). Carry Every Step, Every Action With Simplicity And Courtesy, And Earnest Purpose To Please God.

Don’t Do Things God Forbid You To Do In Your Courtship. Both Should Set Rules And Principles( Either Individually Or One Principle(s) For Both ) For The Courtship Relationship In The Light Of God’s Word To Help You Stay On Track. Learn And Seek Further Counsel In The Word Of God And Shun All Unholy Practices. Avoid All Appearance Of Evil. Let Simplicity, Sincerity, And Courtesy Be Carried In All Your Courtship And Also, Through Your Marriage.


“Not to Trifle With Hearts—To trifle with hearts is a crime of no small magnitude in the sight of a holy God. And yet some will show preference for young ladies and call out their affections, and then go their way and forget all about the words they have spoken and their effect. A new face attracts them, and they repeat the same words, devote to another the same attentions.—The Review and Herald, November 4, 1884. (The Adventist Home, 57.) 1MCP 299.3”

“Definition of an Unbeliever—Though the companion of your choice were in all other respects worthy (which he is not), yet he has not accepted the truth for this time; he is an unbeliever, and you are forbidden of Heaven to unite yourself with him.You cannot, without peril to your soul, disregard this divine injunction.—Testimonies for the Church 5:364 (1885). 1MCP 305.1”

“Love Is Not Sentimentalism—The love and sympathy which Jesus would have us give to others does not savor of sentimentalism, which is a snare to the soul; it is a love that is of heavenly extraction, which Jesus exemplifies by both precept and example. But instead of manifesting this love, how often we are alienated and estranged one from another….The result is estrangement from God, a dwarfed experience, a blighting of Christian growth.—The Youth’s Instructor, October 20, 1892. (Sons and Daughters of God, 147.) 1MCP 306.3”

“Selecting a Companion—Let a young woman accept as a life companion only one who possesses pure, manly traits of character, one who is diligent, aspiring, and honest, one who loves and fears God. Let a young man seek one to stand by his side who is fitted to bear her share of life’s burdens, one whose influence will ennoble and refine him and who will make him happy in her love.—The Ministry of Healing, 359 (1905).1MCP 307.2”

“Proverbs 16:3 Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established.”

“Those whose hearts are fully surrendered to God, and who take His word as their guide, will know how to conduct themselves in all the duties of life. They will learn of Jesus, who is meek and lowly of heart; and in cultivating the meekness of Christ, they will close the door against innumerable temptations.28 Adventist Home 380.1”

“Psalms 84:11 For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.

84:12 O LORD of hosts, blessed is the man that trusteth in thee.”

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