There seems to be a huge Exodus as far as marriage in the Adventist Church is concerned. Young men and young women are fast leaving the church to find their spouses outside the church in the name of love.
Is this wise? Let us put to focus the counsel of Paul to Corinthians. Is it a sin? What is important to give thought to before marrying an unbeliever?
There are an eternity of reasons that makes it unwise for a Christian to decide to marry an unbeliever. A good rule to consider in marrying another is this: “Will this person help me and any children we have to go to heaven?” If this question cannot be answered with an honest “yes” then marriage should be out of the question, whether the person claims to be a believer or not! It may be unwise, but it is not necessarily sinful to marry an unbeliever.
“I wrote to you before not to associate with immoral people; I did not at all mean the immoral people of the world… for then you would have to go out of the world. But actually, I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he should be an immoral person…” (1 Corinthians 5:9-11).
Not all relationships with unbelievers are forbidden; just those that would compromise our faith. We certainly can eat, help, play with, work with and even marry unbelievers without committing sin, though not all these partnerships may be the wisest things we have done. Jesus, in fact, ate with sinners, but did not participate in sin with them (Mark 2:16; Hebrews 4:15).
So instead of finger pointing, let us look at why these people are making those choices. Marrying inside the church does not necessarily mean marrying the right person.
The biggest question that should take your primary focus is this, “Will this person help me and any children we have to go to heaven?”